A Matter of Modesty

Anyone who has ever been to the ultra Orthodox section of Jerusalem known as, Meah Shearim, has seen signs posted in the entrance reminding people of the importance of dressing modestly when entering the Hasidic neighborhood. These Jews, known as Haredim, have perverted and distorted the observance and custom of modest dress, especially when they spit at or throw things at women who do not dress the way they would like.

Despite their unjustified obnoxious attempt at enforcement of their standards and interpretation of Jewish law, many Jews do not realize it, but tzin’oot, modesty in dress, is a time honored tradition among Jews. The primary principle honored for generations is that one should not be overly exposed or wear something which is provocative or sexually suggestive. The custom has its origins in stories about he matriarchs of the Bible.

While the ultra Orthodox have taken things to an extreme, it is possible that many of us modern liberal Jews may have gone too far to the other extreme. We have young girls come to the bema on services and even to their own bat mitzvah or the bar mitzvah of a sibling with no appreciation of this concept.

I urge our parents and young people to keep in mind that we dress differently for different places and different occasions. Attire that is too revealing is not appropriate, and especially not appropriate for a synagogue. A synagogue is a place of worship, a place where we show reverence for God, for our tradition and our fellow Jews. One way we do this is by dressing respectfully. Whether it is coming to synagogue for a bar or bat mitzvah or other times, please keep this in mind.

You Don’t Have to be Orthodox

I am not an Orthodox Jew.

Yet this does not prevent me from living a fully committed Jewish life.

I observe Shabbat by having a traditional Friday night meal every Friday evening. We light the candles, chant the Kiddush, say motzi over two covered hallot, and sing Shalom Aleichem prior to a beautiful Shabbat dinner on a festive table adorned with a white table cloth. I bless our children (when they are home), sing the traditional Eishet Hayil praising my wife and attend Shabbat services, even when I am out of town and not leading them. I spend Shabbat afternoon at home or occasionally with friends, but never go shopping on Saturday. I do all this, but I am not Orthodox.

I keep kosher. We have two sets of dishes in our home. (Actually we have six sets of dishes – meat and milk for weekday, meat and milk for Passover and nice meat milk china as well.) We only purchase and eat kosher meat and chicken and consume nothing that is traife. When we go out to eat in a restaurant, we eat vegetarian dishes, fish, salads or pasta. But I am not Orthodox.

There are many other things that I do, such as study Torah and pray on a regular basis as I attempt to live my life in accordance with Jewish teachings. But I am not Orthodox.

My point in writing this is to let you know that it is possible to live an observant and fulfilling Jewish life within the context of the Conservative Movement and here, at B’nai Tzedek without having to become Orthodox.

I choose to be a Conservative Jew for a number of reasons. I appreciate its intellectual honesty and its struggle to preserve Jewish tradition while confronting modernity. I appreciate its emphasis on Jewish universal and particularistic values, and its embrace and support for Israel, and on the concept of community and Clal Yisrael. I believe its philosophy and approach reflect the Judaism the rabbis aspired to create.

I have always felt one of my most important roles as a rabbi is to be an advocate for mitzvot. I urge and encourage you to take on mitzvot on a regular basis and to partake in the beauty of our heritage, traditions and customs. I remember when I was in Reform congregations and would encourage members to incorporate aspects of Jewish observance into their lives, individuals would often say to me, “But rabbi, we’re not Orthodox.” We should not cede Jewish observance merely to the Orthodox. There is no reason why we cannot also find meaning and purpose and fulfillment in the beauty of our traditions. Conservative Judaism respects Jewish laws and identifies itself as a halachic movement.

B’nai Tzedek has been a gateway for many to a life in which Judaism plays a regular role. I am especially proud of the many members of our congregation who have found that B’nai Tzedek has been a place where they can deepen their attachment to Judaism and connect to our community, by taking classes, by availing themselves of the many programs and opportunities we offer. Many individuals attend services on a regular basis who have never done so before. Others have started to keep kosher and observe Shabbat. One can live a fully immersed Jewish life in the Conservative Movement, and I encourage you to take your spiritual journey here.

JCC Dinner of Champions

I was honored to be asked once again to offer the invocation at the annual Jewish Community Center Dinner. This is an important fundraiser which raises approximately $250,000 to support the outstanding work of the JCC, especially its special needs and inclusion program.

JCC Sports Hall of Fame 2010

We gather tonight in the middle of the hockey, basketball, soccer, lacrosse and football seasons.

Tonight is a great night because we celebrate –

The wonderful work of the JCC and all it does to give otherwise disadvantaged young people hope, fun and the opportunity to just be regular kids;

We honor all those young people who are role models, counselors, campers, volunteers and staff members who give so much;

We come together as a community to celebrate what it means to be a part of such a vibrant and dynamic local Jewish community that despite economic setbacks strives to do so much to improve the lives of all, in pursuit of the Jewish imperative to better our world and to serve others.

And tonight we recognize and honor our local athletes and the pride they bring us from their accomplishments both on and off the field over the years;

As we all know in all of these sports, behind every good athlete is a loving, concerned and supportive family, and in most instances, a supportive Jewish mother. Nowhere is this more true than the story of one of the first great NFL players, Sidney Luckman, who was blessed with an especially loving mother.

Sid Luckman, a nice Jewish kid was the National Football League's Most Valuable Player in 1943 and a member of the NFL Hall of Fame. He played quarterback for the Chicago Bears from 1939 to 1950. He was the first modern T-formation quarterback and is considered the greatest long range passer of his time. During his 12 seasons with the Bears he led them to four NFL championships and five western division titles.

What you might not know is that the first time his mother saw him playing professionally was in a memorable game in which he threw 7 touchdown passes against the New York Giants. She wasn’t all that familiar with the game or what was going on. All she knew was what she saw – a bunch of guys chasing after her son, trying to tackle him and take the ball from him.

At one point she began to shout out at the top of her lungs, “Sidney, if they want the ball that much, just give it to them.”

Christian – Jewish Dialogue

Under the auspices of the American Jewish Committee, I recently attended an ongoing dialogue group that I am a part of with Lutheran clergy and lay leaders, as well as rabbis and lay leaders of the Jewish community.

The particular issue before us is a document highly offensive to those of us who are lovers and supporters of Israel. The “Kairos Document” purports to represent the voice of Christian Palestinians. It is a highly charged diatribe filled with invective against Israel. We met with our Christian counterparts in the spirit of cooperation and concern. Our colleagues were as disturbed by the hostility expressed against Israel as were the Jews in the room.

We are fortunate to have friends in the Christian community, and must never forget how important it is to continue to nurture these relationships.

Rally for Gilad Shalit

I was extremely impressed by the energy and raw enthusiasm of the students who organized a rally in November on behalf of Gilad Shalit on the National Mall. The students pulled together in a very short period of time a rally in which they called for 1,600 people to attend to mark the 1,600 days of captivity of Gilad Shalit. Although there were no official crowd estimates, they certainly had over 1,000 people attend and may very well have had close to 1,600.

I was asked to address the crowd and said, “The 1,600 of us here today send a message. We will not forget Gilad Shalit or his 1,600 days in captivity. We send this message to the capitals throughout the world, as well as to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue.”

I also reminded those in attendance of the courage and bravery of the Soviet Jews who were held captive by the communist regime. They faced similar odds and had to encounter despair. I told them the story of Natan Sharansky, who writes in his autobiography, “Fear no evil” that his Russian jailors would taunt him by belittling those who were speaking on his behalf. They would tell him, “We are the mighty Soviet empire. And all you have are a bunch of students and housewives demonstrating on your behalf.” But Sharansky explains, “Whenever they would say this, I would respond, ‘Ah, but you don’t understand. Those are Jewish students and Jewish housewives who are demonstrating for my freedom!’”

So hopefully this outpouring by students will also result in the release of Gilad Shalit and his safe and speedy return to his family. It is important that we not forget him and that we not lose hope.

Chanukah 2010

This Chanukah has been an extremely busy time of year, especially as I am slowly taking on more responsibilities and beginning to resume a full schedule. On the first night of Chanukah I was with Ambassador Michael Oren and his wife, Sally, at a private reception at the 6th & I Synagogue downtown. From there I went to a reception hosted by the Ambassador of Morocco for members of the Jewish community. In addition to family celebrations and those here at B’nai Tzedek, I was honored to be invited by Governor Martin O’Malley to officiate at the reception at the Governor’s Mansion, as well as at a reception hosted by the DCM of the Israel Embassy, Dan Arbell and his wife, Sarit for members of the Diplomatic Corps in the Washington, DC area.

I wanted to share with you’re my remarks at the Governor’s Mansion.

Chanukah 2010 - Annapolis, Maryland

This will be a Chanukah unlike any other. This festival of lights, is one we will remember, not because it comes “so early this year,” or because of the beautiful chanukiyot that shine so brightly in our homes, but on account of the darkness it has brought to our beloved land of Israel.

As we gather today, and Governor O’Malley and his wife, Katie are kind enough to open their home to us to light the candles of the menorah our festive mood is diminished somewhat because our precious holy land is engulfed in flames. The traditional images associated with the menorah, symbol of light, of Chanukah, of candles burning bright to remind us of the Macabees and the joy of their victory eludes us as instead the flickering flames evokes the image of the fire raging in the north of Israel.

The loss of life is tragic, the pain compounded only by the amount of trees and wild life destroyed. It is all especially painful and hurts because we know how much pride Israel takes in the forests that have been planted this past century to help nourish the soil in accordance with the Jewish injunction to care for the earth.

We Jews are much more familiar and better adapted to the role of planting trees than of putting out fires.

In part that may be because one of the most prominent commandments found in the torah, familiar to every Jew was when Moses told the people to plant trees upon their entry into the land of Israel. And so we have done so ever since, and with special zeal and fervor since the 19th century, when the Zionist pioneers started to build settlements and make aliyah in massive numbers.

The effort has been a true partnership, between the Jews of Israel and around the world. Most of us here today have contributed to plant trees, and many of us have actually planted trees with our own hands when in Israel. You chop up the land, take a little sapling protected by black plastic, place it in the ground, cover it with dirt, water it, and hope it will take root and grow.

The midrash reminds and teaches us that fire, like life itself has a dual capability. It can destroy and it can build. It can be used to mold, to meld, and to mend or to maim and end life. The rabbis go on to teach us that how fire is used, whether it be constructive or destructive, for good or to harm is up to us. We decide how to employ and use it, and thereby determine if it will bring blessing and prosperity or death and devastation.

Similarly, the story of the Macabees and Chanukah reminds us as well that life is a series of choices and that we hold the key to our destiny and fate. When the Macabees chose to fight for freedom, and to keep the flame of Judaism alive, they bequeathed to us a precious gift. When they entered into a darkened Temple, desecrated by the Selucids, they searched and found a small cruse of oil. Rather than curse the darkness, they lit a candle and sought to rebuild and rededicate the Temple.

We look forward to the time when the fires that rage in Israel will be brought under control, and are grateful to see that the people of Israel do not stand alone. The good will of those around the world who have sent aid will help quench the fire, and give emotional support and comfort as well. We hope and pray that rain will come to the parched land and that once again the light of freedom will shine bright.

B’nai Tzedek has joined with the Jewish National Fund to raise funds to help purchase another fire truck and additional firefighting equipment. If you would like to make a donation, send your check to B’nai Tzedek (10621 South Glen Road, Potomac, MD 20854) and indicate that it is for the Greater DC Fire Relief Fund.